Are you ready to become the woman you’ve always wanted to be?
Think back to when you were young… Remember when all things seemed possible, when life stretched before you like an endless road? You had hopes, dreams, and plans for the future — and you were certain that nothing would get in your way.
But then life happened, with its unexpected detours. Some were good, some not so good. Failed relationships, demoralizing jobs, and mounting responsibilities took their toll. People told you that the dreams of your youth were foolish and naive — you needed to “get real” and “just deal with it.”
At some point, you made an agreement with yourself that those people must be right. What made you think that you were special? Why couldn’t you just accept that who you are and what you have are all that will ever be?
Still, deep down, you wonder, “What if?” What if those people were wrong, and you somehow could get back on that road you once envisioned and realize some of your long-ago dreams? Well, I’m here to tell you that you can! How do I know? Because I’ve been there, and I’ve experienced it myself.
I’m Pam Mattys, and I’m here for you
I’m a certified life coach and workshop facilitator. I’ve lived in Oregon since 1998, but I’m originally from Hawaii. I‘m happily married, and I have two grown sons. I enjoy cooking, travel, crafts, reading, music, and relaxing with my husband and our various pets.
I spent most of my career as an executive administrative assistant, supporting senior leaders at such organizations as the Federal Reserve Bank of San Francisco, Intel, and the Chief’s Office of the Portland Police Bureau. I retired in 2018 to pursue what I’d long known is my true calling: helping women reach their highest potential. You can read more at My Story.
My areas of expertise
I specialize in helping mid- and late-career professional women deal with the types of challenges that I’ve faced in my own life: divorce, single motherhood, toxic work environments, overcoming insecurities about my self-worth, finding a sense of personal style, aging gracefully, and learning how to take care of myself so that I can take care of others. Here are some topics that I address in my coaching and workshops:
Finding your purpose in life
I believe that each of us was put here for a reason. Unfortunately, we weren’t born with a piece of paper telling us what that reason is. Some people seem to know from an early age, focusing on what it takes to reach their goals. Most of us, however, take years, often trying to be what other people tell us we should be. I can help you figure out who you truly are and what you’re meant to be — and how to become that person.
Swimming with the sharks
Are you in a hostile work environment, with a toxic culture, a bully boss, or coworkers who are trying to sabotage you? Do you despise corporate politics but realize that you can’t avoid them? Do you want to succeed in your career but remain true to your values? I’ll teach you skills to swim with the sharks without becoming one or being eaten by them — and how to make them respect you, if not necessarily like you.
Superwoman! — the myth
I’m sure you’re heard that “you can have it all”: relationship, career, motherhood, volunteer work, hobbies — because you’re an Empowered Modern Woman. So why isn’t that happening for you, especially if you’re a single mom, trying to juggle family and career? Because “having it all” (at least all at the same time) is a myth. I’ll help you prioritize, do the best you can, and not beat yourself up for what you can’t do.
Being a stranger in a strange land
Do people tell you that you’re “too sensitive,” “too nice,” or “different”? Maybe you’re from another culture, or you have a quirky personality. Problems arise when someone makes incorrect assumptions about another person’s words, behaviors, or appearance. You might not be able to change others, but you can learn to understand them, adapt where appropriate, and accept and remain who you are.
Sister, you’re stylin’!
Are you concerned about your clothes, your weight, your face, your mannerisms, your hairstyle, or any other aspect of yourself that’s visible to the rest of world? If so, join the club — which includes everyone in existence. Society and the media bombard us with ideals of perfection we’re supposed to live up to — when, in fact, there’s no such thing. I’ll help you learn to trust your intuition and discover and embrace your personal style.
Staying young at heart
George Bernard Shaw famously said, “Youth is wasted on the young.” If you’re, um, of a certain age, you probably wonder how to remain relevant in our youth-obsessed culture — especially at work. There was a time when age was respected for the wisdom and experience that go with it. We mature folk have plenty to offer to the world, and we need to keep active, engaged, and upbeat. It ain’t over till it’s over!
Breaking old patterns
Do you engage in behaviors that you know are self-defeating but that you can’t seem to change? Maybe it’s overindulging in unhealthy foods, or choosing the wrong type of romantic partner, or starting projects you never finish. Our bad (and good) habits come from what we learned when we were too young to understand. By figuring out where they came from, we can replace old patterns with new ones.
Getting along with others
My husband says that everyone is weird in their own way, so you need to find others who are compatibly weird. Unfortunately, you can’t always choose whom you interact with (such as relatives and coworkers), but you can employ strategies to get along with them by understanding that how they behave isn’t personal. As for other relationships, you’re under no obligation to remain in those that you know are unhealthy.
Taking time for self-care
Increasing rudeness, political polarization, road rage, job stress… Some experts believe that modern-day life has become more complicated than humans are able to deal with. So how do you cope? By finding what grounds and relaxes you, be it walking in nature, scheduling a spa day, indulging in a hobby, taking a hot bath, reading, or meditating. You need to be good to yourself so you can be at your best for others.
If you’re a woman who needs a helping hand and a kind heart to guide you toward becoming the best version of yourself that you can be, then contact me today to schedule a complimentary get-acquainted session.
You, my sister, are stronger than you know!