I’m Pam Mattys, a certified life coach and workshop facilitator. Thank you for visiting my site! Let me tell you a little about Koa Leaf so you can determine whether we might be a good fit for a coaching relationship.
How life coaching can help you
You might have heard about life coaching, but maybe you’re not sure quite what it involves. Life coaching is a process of self-discovery in which a trained, objective, nonjudgmental third party helps you figure out your goals, priorities, and stumbling blocks by guiding you in the direction you want to go but that you can’t see clearly on your own. I’ll ask you questions, encourage you, make you focus, and prompt you to look deeply and honestly into yourself. Once we determine your primary goal, I’ll help you create small, achievable action steps that will enable you to reach that goal. I’ll also hold you accountable for carrying them out.
The difference between life coaching and counseling or therapy
Life coaching is based on the assumption that you already know the answers to your questions, but that you just need help finding them. Although I’ll occasionally share personal experiences when they’re relevant and helpful, my job is not to give advice, but to listen to you — to truly hear what you’re saying — and to act as a guide. Coaching undoubtably will cause emotional issues to arise and make you aware of self-defeating behaviors that have been holding you back. Some issues, however, are too deep and painful to be helped by coaching. In such cases, you’re better served by a trained therapist, counselor, or psychoanalyst, who uses different approaches and skills.
My training and background
I received my training from Diana Adkins of Artist of the Spirit and from HeatherAsh Amara, who developed the Warrior Goddess Way to help empower women. HeatherAsh apprenticed under Don Miguel Ruiz, author of the best-selling book The Four Agreements.
Certified Life, Spiritual, and Energetic Coach
Aside from my formal training, I have considerable experience in the school of life. It includes divorce, single motherhood, financial difficulties, hostile work environments, self-doubt, and being the proverbial “fish out of water,” trying to remain true to my Hawaiian values in the tougher Mainland culture. Whatever you’re going through, I can empathize. I’ve also been blessed. Many people — sometimes complete strangers — have helped me and shown me kindness. I have a wonderful husband and two fine sons. I reached a level in my previous career that I never would have dreamed possible.
My spiritual beliefs
I’m a Christian who believes in a loving God, and I live my life by Christian principles. Without my faith, I don’t know how I would have survived some of the traumatic events in my life. I believe that we’re all equal in God’s eyes, regardless of skin color, ethnicity, sexual orientation, nationality, income level, profession, or any of the other differences that humans use to divide and devalue one another.
I also have a deep respect for the beliefs of others. I grew up surrounded by Native Hawaiian culture, which is profoundly spiritual. Hawaiians practice “living aloha,” which means living in harmony with people, nature, and the land. It involves respect and appreciation for the joys and mysteries of life: family, friends, work, food, the arts, and the sacred. Ultimately, I believe that the important thing is what’s in a person’s heart and how they treat others, rather than whether they adhere to some set of obscure dogmatic details that was created by humans. In short, I welcome all women who come to me with a sincere and open heart.
If Koa Leaf coaching sounds like it might be right for you, please schedule a complimentary get-acquainted call with me. I look forward to talking with you!